Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Eureka Moment for week 3
When I was younger my parents used to call me Lindsey last word. I always had to get the last word in. It could have been screamed or muttered under my breath, but I always got it in. I think about that today. I still always have to have the last word. Not in a bad way either. If I am having a conversation and I say goodbye and they say goodbye I will throw in an ok, or talk to you later, or just something else. Even in text messages I will always be the last to text in a conversation. I won’t let it be the other party. I never thought too much about it until this weekend over my fiancé’s house. His family was having a barbeque and his dog was barking. His dad was telling her to be quiet and she let out one last little bark at the end. We were upstairs printing something off the computer and he said “Typical woman always has to have the last word.” Right when I was about to give him a nudge for the remark I heard his sister say the exact same thing. Well, at that point I couldn’t exactly yell at him for saying it and let him know it’s not appropriate when his sister just said it a minute after he did. Then I really started to think is that such a bad statement. I like having the last word. I do not think it’s a bad thing. Is it? My sister is the same way. We will say ok via text in a conversation a million times because we both want the last word. I wonder why it matters. Does it mean something more than what we really think it does? Being that my fiancé knows that I love having the last word, and most men know women like that, do they manipulate situations to their advantage? Is it sad that all of this came about from a dog barking????
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Response to Dana’s Post
ReplyDeleteI can understand some of your frustration. It is sad to say, but be thankful they let you help. I have had situations where I have been told that I would be in the way more than being helpful. If I wanted to be helpful I could bring them lunch of something. That day they were on their own for food and drink. I do not think guys in that situation though do that to necessarily belittle women per say. I think they have that macho image (which we read about in chapter 11) that they want to uphold. Think about how the media portrays men. Rough, tough, rugged, macho, and strong are some characteristics that were named I believe. If a woman can come in and do what they do (we know we can!) what more are they really going to try and impress us with. Sometimes it is fun to “play” the part and let it go. Like I said, at least in your situation, they included you and made you a part of the moving experience instead of trying to demean your character. I give them credit for that.
I definitely do not think its the bad thing to have the last word. It often finalizes anything- whether it be a conversation or argument. Having the last word is something I feel like I was raised with. In a family of screamers (the parents), it was hard to be heard. Eventually you learn to speak back or not be heard. At the same time, it also bring comedy to situations. I find myself saying something smart to make a situation lighter. Bring humor in with the last word leaves both parties smiling, even if the discussion wasn't the most pleasant
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